Are you dealing with impostor syndrome? Do you feel as if your life is one big fail because you believe that everything you’ve done in your life was sham? Or your success wasn’t made totally by you?
We all go through that. Even I, to be honest. Sometimes, I believe that my work, school, and business are all part of a sham. Everything I write and create, someone has already made it, which means that I’m just building a business from what someone else has already made. Also, just my personal life too. I sometimes think that te dream that I’m building is not truly me, but someone else dreams. However, that FAR from the truth.
If you feel like everything you’ve done in your life, with school, social circle, or work, feels like it just all a sham or you don’t deserve it, then this post is definitely for you. Just know that there is a reason for everything you have done, whether it was done by you, random situations, or even God himself, everything was done for a purpose.
Also, you’re not alone in this. We all go through this sometimes or at a point in our life.
Oh, by the way…YOU MATTER!
Without further due, let’s get to the nitty-gritty of dealing with impostor syndrome.
This post is all about dealing with impostor syndrome.
Before we start, let’s get to the absolute definition of impostor syndrome. Then, we go to how do we know we have it, what is the cause of it, why this happens to us, who does it happen to most, and how we deal with it.
What is and the cause of Impostor Syndrome?
So what is impostor syndrome? According to the Training Journal, it is the “phenomenon involving otherwise successful and intelligent professionals who feel they simply don’t deserve their accomplishments”.
In simple terms, it is basically saying that a smart, talented, individual like you feel you don’t deserve success because you think that every successful thing you’ve done in your life is a sham.
the phenomenon involving otherwise successful and intelligent professionals who feel they simply don’t deserve their accomplishments”.
The cause of impostor syndrome varies among individuals. However, it is said it occurs equally in men and women, based on their status. It can happen while you’re in school, at your job, and even church. However, you need to understand that this experience can increase anxiety, depression, and the likes if you find yourself going deeper into this.
It happens to me most when I am blogging or when I am at work. Plus, understand that impostor syndrome does not ONLY happen with business/entrepreneurs. It can happen to anyone from all walks of life.
For example, I am a toddler teacher who constantly gets thank yous from parents and management for a great job I do in my role. And you know what I do? I dismiss it. I’ve been working in this field for about 4 years and I still think that my achievement isn’t really my accomplishment.
I sometimes think to myself that others have done a better job than me. They didn’t need help or assistance from anyone in their life, and they’ve accomplished their life goals because they were way smarter than me. They achieved their goals because they worked harder than me and are more creative than me.
That’s what I thought constantly. Though I still think those thoughts, I am currently working on believing in myself but also thanking God for creating me and my abilities.
I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
The thing is, no one even knows how this phenomenon came about. It is still unknown. However, there are healthy and practical ways to deal with impostor syndrome.
It is time to tell yourself that you are worthy of all the accomplishments you do and receive. It is time to tell yourself that everything that you’ve done until now is something that you’ve done in your own accord (with God’s help of course who gives thee strength).
Also, if you did get help, nothing is wrong with that. That just increases your skills and abilities because, with their help, you’ve GAINED or IMPROVED a skill you’ve never had before. Therefore, improved skills can help you accomplish other tasks that you have set for yourself ahead.
So, if you feel as if you need a little boost for yourself, here are some tips that I urge you to when you feel low.
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Tips on how to deal with Impostor Syndrome
- Learn to be okay with where you are
- Use positive affirmations to encourage yourself
- Give yourself some grace
- Make a list of your strengths and ponder on them
- Focus on being on the here and now
- Don’t dismiss compliments, take them as it is and nothing more
- Journal your thoughts
- Find your support group
- Understand that everyone is as hardworking as you are
- Develop a gratitude attitude
- Develop a positive mindset
- Keep track of your progress
- Stop the comparing game
- Know that your work is just as important
- Create a habitual routine that encourages you
- Treat yourself when your task or goals has been done
- Break down your task into bits so you know what you’re doing and how you’re doing it
- Know that you are enough and able to do whatever you set your mind to do
- Don’t overwork yourself. CEOs take breaks too.
- Don’t be ashamed of what you don’t have. Celebrate your abilities and use them to the fullest.
- It’s okay to improve your skills.
There you go! I hope you find this post helpful and insightful.
Here is a question for you: Do you feel as if you have impostor syndrome? What do you think that is? Did you do anything about it?
Until Next Time,