Do you want something in life but you don’t know how to get it? And I am not talking something materialistic like going to the grocery store or something. I’m basically talking about living a fulfilled life.
Well, it’s not that difficult. As the title states, if you shift your mindset to what you really want, you can accomplish what you want and fulfill it.
But how do you go about it?
In this post, I will be giving you several ways to living a fulfilled life. This will impact you to be motivated, encouraged, and inspired to achieve anything you’ve set your mind to do.
“The only person who is holding you back is yourself.” Simply Alia
Let’s get started.
- Stop Believing You Can’t Live Life A Life Fulfilled
- Understand That There Will Be Storms
- The Things We Desire Take Time
- Believe That You Can Life A Life Fulfilled
- Do The Work To Create A Life You Desire
- Affirm & Speak Truth (Life & Environment)
- Assess Your Values
- It All Starts With You
- Take Care Of Yourself
1. Stop Believing You Can’t Live Life A Life Fulfilled
Most of the time, when we want to do something or have something, there is always something within us that brings in fear. Why? Because we are getting out of our comfort zone. We want to be safe, we don’t want to get hurt, we don’t want to be introduced to something new in fear of it messing up our current lifestyle, and we want peace. What’s out there may be bad, so staying where we are is better.
A thought just like this is universal. I do that at times. That’s normal.
There is a scary side to that though. If you continue to dwell in your comfort zone for the rest of your life, how would you get where you want to be, especially if you have a certain destination in mind? For those that like to stay in their comfort zone, stay in your comfort. That just means you like where you are, and you don’t want to move not one bit.
It’s your life, so be proud of that.
For those that want to move forward, staying in your comfort is not going to get you to the next level or destination you want to be. What may seem safe may not always be suitable for you.
When we go beyond our comfort zone, we test our abilities. We open up gifts or talents we’ve never tried out before. But what makes us unable to do that? Fear of I can’t, which is also fear of failure.
You think you can’t do this or that. But to be honest, have you ever tried something that may have scared you in the beginning but you ended up liking it after trying it?
If there is something that you want, but it’s making you feel afraid, then dig deep to what you’re actually afraid of. If there’s “I can’t” in that, then define you’re I can’t.
- Why are you saying I can’t?
- Where is it coming from? Is it external? Internal?
- Are you doubting your abilities? Why?
- Are you comparing yourself to others? Why?
- Do you truly believe in your abilities? Why or why not?
- Do you love yourself enough to be the best YOU can be?
Ask yourself these question and define your I can’t. Either way, your “I can’t” may just be a way for you to hide from getting embarrassed or even hurt.
Dig deep within yourself and break out of that bondage of I can’t.
2. Understand That There Be Will Storms
I’ve gone through storms. And I know that I’ll still be going through storms. That is a fact of life. Get that understood!
I truly never understood why storms were in our life. I am a pretty positive person, but when storms come, it’s like my life is over (when it’s not). The storms get to me and I react with it, instead of against it. I start to give up on plans that could’ve been altered. I blame my own abilities when I could’ve just calmed down and seen the situation in a different light. Over the years, my 20s, I’ve learned to weather the storm by welcoming it. I don’t welcome it fully, but I let the storm take its course, while I find other ways to enjoy my journey through it.
“You can be in the storm, but don’t let the storm get in you.” Joel Osteen
You will be going through storms too. Whether it is slowly coming down, or it’s raging in the wind, storms will occur. Nonetheless, that should not stop you from continuing on your journey. To shift your mindset to what you really want, you first need to know the complexities of life and yourself. There will be good, bad, confusing themes going on within your journey. But until you understand these things and yourself, what you may want in life is not going to come to you.
Even if storms do come, you need to find ways to weather the blows. Whatever pleases and inspires you, do these things during those seasons.
You can do anything you set yourself to do. Look at your life, you’ve gotten this far so you can’t stop now.
“Sometimes the storm won’t calm, but it is the calming of the man that he can master the storm.” – Unknown
3. The Things We Desire Take Time
If you really want something, it will take time. Most definitely. Trust me, I’m like impatient at times when things take time to reap what I sowed.
It’s like incorporating a new habit into your lifestyle. It’s not going to be easy to include the habit into your lifestyle because it’s all new. It’s definitely not going to take you 21 days, as others would say unless you’re truly serious about it. It will take time because it requires understanding you and your environment. It requires a strong sense of value, what you believe in and stands for, and whether this habit would tremendously change your life for the better.
Time is indefinite. Sometimes things come quickly, sometimes it doesn’t. We can’t really blame time for that. So while we wait for our moment, as we still work for it, enjoy the current moments too. Spend time with family and friends. Watch your favorite movie. Take pictures of your favorite things. Your time will come, but let your time also be filled with precious memories that’ll help you enjoy the moments of your journey too.
4. Believe That You Can Live A Life Fulfilled
It seems simple as just believing right?
Yes & No. But most of the time, if your desire is difficult as wanting to save money, it requires works, discipline, and dedication.
Believing that you can do something or have something requires deep belief, desire, and motivation to acquire it. It demands a determined and successful mindset.
I read a book earlier this year called Think & Grow Rich By Napoleon Hill and it overall talks about how you can make your desires come true if you believe it and strive to achieve it.
If you acquire these characters of achieving your desires, then you’ll eventually get to where you want to be, no matter how long it’ll take you to get there.
When you think that you can, you can.
When you think that you can, you believe that you can. When you believe that you can, you start doing what you can. When you start doing what you can and keep doing it, you see results.
Everyone has a different idea of what living fulfilled means. You need to know your life fulfillment so you can do the work to work towards that goal.
Simple as that.
5. Do The Work To Create A Life You Desire
Nothing in life is given to us that easily. It’s based on hard work, dedication, motivation, and a little inspiration.
When you do the work, don’t think of it as work. I rather you think of it as a new development you’re learning about. Everything you work for could be turned into something rewarding in the future. If you don’t like the work you’re doing, there are two things you can do: change the way you’re doing it or don’t do the work at all. Plain and simple.
Nevertheless, everything in life requires work, you just need the inspiration, creativity, and motivation to do it. You need to have the end goal at hand.
Life requires work! How? If you want to live a fulfilled life, then working for it is necessary. Want to be happy, do the necessary things to be happy. Love yourself, take care of yourself and the like.
It all depends on how much you want it and what you’re willing to do for it.
6. Affirm & Speak Truth (Life & Environment)
Speaking truth and positivity to your life is a must. As a Christian, I tend to run into dead ends or struggle with things that are out of my reach. But when I pray or declare God’s word in my life, I perceive and believe it. I tell myself, “I know that this is not my current situation, but I am going to be hoping for (blank) soon. I speak laughter and safety into my life…” and the list goes on.
Words have great power.
“The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.” Proverbs 15:4 NIV
Your words can either bless or curse. Your words can either bring people up or it can break a heart. Words can also bring you up or bring you down. Negative reaps negative, and positive reaps positive. This is the same for your situation when you say something negatively toward your situations.
So for you, believe in yourself and speak to your situation. First, acknowledge the reality of the situation but also speak what you want to come out of it, for yourself. Sometimes the situation doesn’t change, but the person does. This is will shift your mindset to believing what you want and changing it.
7. Assess Your Values
Values are an important part of your life. They direct your mindset, your thoughts, and pretty much your belief.
One thing you can do to change your shift your mindset to what you really want is to know your values.
What do you value most in life? Do you believe in servitude? Laughter? Justice? Curiosity? This is may or may not be hard to pinpoint.
If you want to know your values, look around your environment. Think about the friends you hang with or the people you follow on social media. When you fully ponder on these things, you’ll see what exactly you value and find out what you may or may not have known about yourself.
8. It All Starts With You
People can tell you what you want or need. But at the end, it is their opinion. Everyone and anyone can tell you that you need to do this with your life and that (like your parents, bless their hearts). Some people don’t mean no harm, however, you’re responsible for your decisions.
You shift your mindset and you make the change. If there’s a change you want to make in your life, decide to make that change. Decide that you’re no longer want to be where you are. Decide that if you want to be somewhere, YOU’RE going to be the one to make the plans to be there. Now, if you have a good support group (friends, family, or coworker) that helps you get where you want to be, then that’s a tremendous bonus point.
9. Take Care Of Yourself
To live a fulfilled life is to take care of yourself, your self-care that is. I wrote a self-care blog that that reminds people that self-care is not a trend, but a lifestyle that should be tended to every day. We wake up, go to work, volunteer, and other things that keeps us busy. And with all this business, we forget to take care of ourselves. We’re not mindful of our bodies nor our mind. We tell ourselves to just push through the day, but pausing at time, and ‘smelling the flowers’ brings about that extra push to finish our day.
Self-care does not only happen after work. It’s during your morning routine, when you eat, when you walk to your car, and when you hang out with friends or even by yourself. Taking care of yourself is what will help move forward fulfilled and refreshed.
There you go!
Until Next Time,