Sure you did pretty well in college and got good grades. Sure you got a pretty good job. You have great friends, a great family, and a good life. But you have been feeling like something isn’t right. It’s like you’re not quite where you want to be. Then you ask yourself this question:
Is that all there is? Surely not. Surely there is something better than this life I have.
Maybe there was this one purpose you’ve always wanted to do in life, but you just haven’t really pushed yourself to achieve it.
In this post, I will be giving you several reasons why you may not be reaching your full purpose. It’s like a hunger that’s never been nourished or a thirst that never been quenched. Have a good look at yourself and see if you’re being held back by one or more of these big things that commonly stop people from reaching their full purpose.
Let’s get started.
- Fear of Failure
- Asking For Permission
This is something we all do, including me. We put off mundane or difficult task, then regret it later wishing that we could’ve done it sooner. We could’ve made that phone call or that conversation. Result? Well, it’s not a pretty thing. Therefore, the more we procrastinate or lay off something, the worse it’s going to get. You know that deep down that you should just do it.
The other big area of procrastination is failing to act. How many good ideas have you had, but you haven’t acted on, because you weren’t ready, or you didn’t have the right skills or enough money yet? There will never be the perfect or right time to start a business, launch a project or pitch a new idea. The right time to act is now. And don’t forget: acting on an idea doesn’t mean you leap into the final product straightaway. Acting means doing your research, allocating budget, testing the market.
What is the definition of procrastination? In short, it’s the failure to act. How many good ideas or plans you’ve had that wasn’t acted on because you weren’t ready, didn’t have the right skills or enough money?
To be really honest with you??? There will never be a perfect time for you to start something. You can tell yourself that you’ll wait until the right time comes, but IT WILL NEVER COME. You can wait for 5 or 10 years, but if you’ve had that purpose in your heart to do something, then the one way for you make it happen is starting now. It’s either now, or later, which may not eventually happen.
If you stop procrastinating and start planning, you’ll be ready for success when it comes.
2. Fear of Failure
One of the simple reasons you’re not reaching your purpose is because of fear. Fear has been the poison that infects everyone’s mind from the beginning of time until now. Fear of failure stops people from taking risks or seizing opportunities. It is a frightening condition if you let it overtake you.
Sometimes it is okay to be fearful, but there is a difference between understanding what you’re afraid of and actually working through it than not doing anything at all and let your fears overcome you. You may be afraid to receive negative feedback from a friend or family member when you tell them your plan. You’re afraid that they may tell you that it may not be a good idea. Failure is not a disaster. It just means that you haven’t found that solution that would get you past the fear. There have been a lot of people that have failed in their lifetime, but they were wise enough to persist because their desire was greater than their fear.
Is your desire greater than your fear? Think about it.
Let’s say you were already working on your plan, but ultimately you found yourself distracted by that phone call, that email, work project, that YouTube video of cats or researching your Enneagram type. I’ve been there friend. At times, we get caught up with the everyday life activities. It’s so easy telling yourself that we’ll get to it when we get to it. But minutes, hours, days, and years go by. We completely forget about it.
Sometimes we get distarcted by the people around us. We get so mesmerized by their success and the things they have that we forget about ourselves and our purpose. We then focus on being like those we admire or get distarcted by that we forget that our journey and purpose is as much important than theirs.
Staying focused and maintaining self-discipline is the key to achieving success. Make it easier to produce good sustaining habits that will help you stick to your priorities and complete your plan.
Self-doubt can stop us from putting out our efforts into our desires. You question your skills, abilities, your values which can bring down your confidence and you become insecure of yourself. You can even start comparing yourself with others, which is a big NO. I don’t want you to do that. Even though someone may have what you want, a comparison is not the solution to achieving YOUR success. You don’t what they’ve done to get there, and you sure may not want to know.
Your success story is entirely up to you. You are able to be reach your purpose, your desired lifestyle. Look back at all the stepping stones that have led you to where you are now. You definitely have the skills and the know-how to get where you want to go. Just keep going, keep persisting, and eventually, you will get there.
5. Asking For Permission
Did you ever ask your parents or friend if you can get a career or move out our of the house? I surely don’t think so! You’ve made those choices on your own, so why continue to live in a world or a mindset where you’ve got to ask permission to be successful and pursue your purpose?
The only person that needs permission to tell you to reach your dreams is yourself. It’s your choice and not anyone else.
There you go!
If there was something you’ve always wanted to do in your life, don’t hesitate. Yes, think about it, contemplate on it, but in the end, don’t take too long, which will lead you to procrastinate. If you started your plan make sure you eliminate distractions and start building self-discipline. Also, never compare yourself to others. You don’t know how they got there, and everyone’s journey is different. Embrace your journey and remove self-doubt. You’re capable of accomplishing anything you set your mind to. It’s either you take a step now or you don’t.
There you have it!
Until Next Time,