One of the ways to live a life full of unlimited opportunities is to create boundaries. Boundaries are being clear about what your limits are, and they are necessary to assure you don’t get overwhelmed by the demands of other people. Also, it’s the one way that will help you be more present in your life without being fully involved with unnecessary interests and activities of what life brings.
When you do not set boundaries, you will see it in how you conduct your life: stressed, burdened, and resent. Remember, your life is not built on the life of others, but yours.
You are the master of your journey.
Now setting your boundaries is not a bad thing. It is just cutting out things you don’t need in life so you can live life your way. Setting boundaries will help you live better and feel better in every aspect of your life.
In this post, I will be giving you simple ways on how to create safe and healthy boundaries. These simplistic tips will help you explore what you honestly want in life so you won’t have to be embedded in the desires of others and bring them as your own.
Let’s get started.
- Uncover Your Values
- Know Your Limits
- Learn How To Read Your Feelings
- Enforce Boundaries
- Be Clear & Negotiate
- Be Direct
1. Uncover Your Values
One way to set boundaries is identifying your values.
- What do you want your environment you look like?
- What company do you hang with?
- What are your hobbies and interest?
- How do you respond to situations on a daily basis?
Simple questions such as these can help you figure what you cherish in life but also know what interest you want to keep in your life, as you rid of other unnecessary activities.
Values are important to know because they’re all about what you stand for and believe in. Also, values are what you’re like and how you see things. The more you know about what you value, the more you set proper boundaries in your life. This may seem hard to do, but if you do these activities little by little, you’ll find yourself living life your way.
2. Know Your Limits
Knowing yourself is the key to creating and maintaining good boundaries. Identify your emotional, mental, and physical limits. To identify your emotional limits, think about how you react to your problems, little or small, and see how you resolve them. For mental, one way to do this is to just think about your outlook on life. Do you see life always good, bad, or in between? Only you can answer that. Do you sleep adequately at night? Do you seldom exercise or on a regular basis? Work out what makes you feel uncomfortable or stressed and what feels good.
Understand that limits, in this case, are never really a bad thing. They only help you reveal your strengths and weaknesses so that you can identify what you can put up with.
3. Learn How To Read Your Feelings
If you’ve evaluated your limits, then you must have felt a variance of emotions. Two key emotions that signal that your boundaries are being crossed are resentment and discomfort. If you feel you’re being taken advantage of, not appreciated, or even being exploited, that’s a sign you’re being pushed beyond your boundaries, and it’s time to reassert those boundaries and say no.
Have you ever slept late at night, then you find yourself waking up in morning grumbling, cursing, and even angry? That’s because you didn’t set boundaries to when you were supposed to sleep. This can also happen when you eat uncontrollably when in a certain mood or letting a problem control your emotions instead of you being the controller of your emotions. Learn to set and control these boundaries every day.
4. Enforce Boundaries
It’s okay to say no. In fact, it’s necessary for your self-respect to maintain your boundaries and refuse an unwelcome request. There is no room for guilt or self-doubt in this. Having clear boundaries and sticking to them is not selfish. In putting yourself first, you’re ensuring that you will have the energy to do the things you want to do and be there for people when its right for you.
5. Be Clear & Negotiate
Know what you need to stay happy and healthy, whether it’s your daily walk, eating right, or even a gym session. Make it clear that these are non-negotiable parts of your daily schedule. Similarly, be clear that you won’t help volunteer the same day of a family or friend school graduation (this is just an example). Know your boundaries and what’s important to you. Being clear and direct about your boundaries leaves no room for doubt, guilt, or leverage.
6. Be Direct
When you’re clear about your boundaries, you don’t need an excuse, a backstory, or a note from your doctor or mother. Be direct and leave it at that. You can be polite and kind about it, but in the end, it’s okay just to say no and keep your boundaries strong. It’s both healthy for you
There you go!
Do you have boundaries that you’re already set in your life? What are they? Let me know about it in the comments below!
Until Next Time,