Life is full of adventures that we just need to step out and do something. There were so many occasions I’ve stepped out of my comfort zone. Sometimes it was pretty. Sometimes, it was even scary. Though, when I get nervous about doing something out of my comfort zone, I begin to remember how much good it’ll make me feel after I have done it.
Do you want to ever do something new in your life but it’s tricky stepping out of your comfort zone? Maybe you want a new job, go on a solo trip, or even just start a business of your own. Well, in this post, I’ll be providing you simple, helpful ways to step out of your comfort zone. Nothing is wrong with comfort, but if you stay too long, it’s going to be difficult for you to move forward, and to fulfill the desires you’ve set for yourself.
If you want to try something new, there’s no better time than the present.
Let’s get started.
- Write Down Your Out Of Comfort Zone List
- Ask Yourself Why These Make You Nervous
- Speak Words Of Positive Affirmations
- Start Small & Go From There
- Remove The I Cants
- Staying Where You Are Won’t Help You Move Forward
1. Write Down Your Out Of Comfort Zone List
I get real nervous when I try something new. I still get nervous if I have to speak in front of a crowd, or even have a conversation with 4 or more people because I’m afraid they might judge or criticize what I say. Overall, I’ve learned that life is sometimes that way and we just have to live with that. Other times, these things that make us afraid of helps us grow and move forward (like doing a class presentation in front of the class so that I can get a good grade!)
It’s okay if you find yourself nervous about something you want to do and you’re too afraid to face it. We’re all human and we all go through that. It’s a simple yet truthful fact. Being nervous is not a bad thing, it’s just a warning to let us know what we’re actually afraid of.
That’s is why the first thing you should do is write down the things you would like to do (maybe 3-5 ventures). Leave space for the next step. These activities don’t have to be big things. You can start small and build up from there. Like for example, one of my goals for this year is to attend an event (paid or free), like a music concert or something, ON MY OWN. For me, I’m pretty nervous about it because I’ve never done anything like this before.
Maybe there’s a bucket list of activities you want to do on your own this year but just need some encouragement. Well, if you do then let’s continue.
2. Ask Yourself Why These Make You Nervous
After writing down the activities you want to do, by each one, list some reasons why they make you nervous. And please be honest about it. Once you’re honest with yourself, then you can really down to the nitty gritty of why you’re not moving forward or trying new things.
- How will this make you feel?
- Are these valid reasons to be nervous about?
- Have you ever done these in the past, which led you to feel this way?
- Will make you feel good in the long run? Or just a temporary feeling?
- Will this shame yourself, friends, or family?
- Is this activity new to you?
- Are you skilled at this?
- What are new positive thoughts you can apply to these activities?
- What are some good things that you can associate with these activities?
As I said, these notions you’re feeling about these activities are normal because they’re just warning signs, or preparation of whether this activity you want to do is good for you or not.
Take your time in writing out your thoughts about these fears or nervousness you have. The more you expose your thoughts and feelings, the more you’ll have a better understanding of yourself.
3. Speak Words of Positive Affirmation
I think it’s always helpful to speak generous words to yourself and your situation, especially when you want to get out of your comfort zone. The words you tell yourself can either bless you or bring you down. When you’re nervous, affirming yourself positively will help you fight your fears and decrease your nervousness.
If you find yourself nervous and unsure, here are some positive words of affirmation to say to yourself:
- This may be scary but I can do this.
- I am confident enough to face this because I am strong and able.
- I know that this is new and a bit scary but it’s also refreshing, encouraging, and inspiring.
- Something new is not bad or scary, it’s just different.
- I will breathe in and out, calming my nerves.
- This is going to be different but it’s also going to be a lesson and a blessing.
These are just a few words you can repeat on your own when you find yourself in a new situation you’re quite nervous or unsure about.
4. Start Small & Go From There
You don’t have to do something big. You can just start small. It can just be going to a restaurant or the movies by yourself. Whatever you know you can do that may make you slightly nervous is something you start with. Before you start, make sure you write the good things you will experience when you do the activity. This way, you’ll be more motivated to go forward with your pursuit.
When you start small, it can lead to big things. The more you step out of your comfort zone, the more confident you’ll be to do other things.
5. Remove The ‘I Cants’
It’s one thing to say “I will try this and see if this works for me” and then there is another to say “I can’t”. It’s better to say I will try this because when you say I can’t, it’s limiting your beliefs. That is why I talked about speaking positive affirmation to your life.
Don’t think that you’re limitless and don’t ever think that you can’t amount to anything. And just because you’re different doesn’t mean that you don’t have any special skills. That is why stepping out of your comfort can also help you see what skills you thought you never had and go from there.
6. Staying Where You Are Won’t Help You Move Forward
This is what I can say for you: if you want to stay where you are and not move forward, that is YOUR decision. No one can ever tell you this or that, not even me. Nevertheless, I know in your heart you want to do something in life and the only way to do it is to move forward. I was very “comfortable” where I was until something clicked in me that I had to move. Something needed change and I am striving to do it.
The question is: will you make that decision to move forward?
It’s never too late for anything. If you don’t know how to swim, then teach yourself how to swim. If you want to travel somewhere outside of the country, then plan ahead. If you want to encourage someone with your faith, then blog or tweet. There is always someone out there who needs to hear your encouraging, funny, sweet, and inspiring words (or video) to get through their day.
There you go!
How do you get out of your comfort zone? What are some things you do to help you move forward? Let me know in the comments below!
Until Next Time,