Why did you give up on your dreams?
It’s too hard.
It’ taking too long.
You can’t do it.
Not strong enough.
People will criticize you.
It’s never going to happen.
Have you ever had these thoughts roam in your mind?
Was that too harsh? Well, it was and wasn’t meant to be at the same time.
Sometimes, we need a little tough love.
You are too good for that. Don’t tell yourself such things. Why? Anyone in this world is worthy enough to accomplish any dream they desire to achieve. Especially you!
I was in your shoes. I thought that my desire for working from home was unreachable or too hard. I was also afraid that my family was going to criticize me for these things. But I learned that my life doesn’t depend on them, but it depends on me. As much as I love my family, my choice and aspiration were to work from home. And I am working toward that. I’m not giving up on it.
I don’t want you to give up either.
If you’re still feeling down or discouraged, let me give you some tips and bits on how to continue to believe in your dreams.
1. Is Your Dream Realistic?
Make sure that your dreams are actually realistic. What I mean by that is that you make sure that your goals are reachable in a certain amount of time.
For example, you want to open your own business and make money in 3 months. That’s too close. Now, I am not saying that you cannot make money in that short time if you’re really willing to sacrifice your leisure activity for your business.
Know yourself and the amount of work you’re willing to put in each day, week, or month. Make that plan!
2. Does This Dream Ignite Any Passion Within You?
Did you lose that passion? Why or why not?
Sometimes our passion is lost from our everyday encounter with life. Sometimes it’s hard getting back up from the difficulties of life. It tells us stuff that we don’t want to hear, but in the end, we listen, believe it, and it becomes our lifestyle.
Remember why you had the passion in the first place.
If you want to be reminded of this passion, create some type of vision board that contains visuals and words that define your dreams and what it stands for in your life. Then, you can regularly look at it when you feel like giving up.
With any goal, task, or dream, there’s always a passion behind it. This goal must have made you feel good, assuredly. Figure out how that dream made you feel. Did it sparkle? Did it spring out fireworks?
Whatever it was, a dream without a passion is dead. Make that dream come alive! Immerse yourself in it.
3. Know Why You Started
Why did you have this urge in the first place? When and where did this all begin? Ponder on those things.
These thoughts could also be implemented as visuals on your vision board.
“The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.” – Mark Twain
4. Does The Desire Apply To You?
Make sure that the passion or desire you have is currently yours. I know that some people, including me, had a dream or two that we wanted to do but it didn’t line up with our belief or values. We just attempted to build it because it sounded good and it was considered attractive.
Make sure that any goals and desire that you have resonates with you and not from someone else. Sure we can get ideas from other people, but know that this is THEIR dream.
Build YOUR desired dream that’s filled with your purpose, values, and beliefs.
5. Are You Letting Others Cloud Your Desires?
You told one of your friends or family member about a certain dream you want to come to follow. Your friend gave you a word of advice or even just flat out told you that it would not work.
First off, if your friend, no matter how you care for each other, has not dealt with the dream you want to follow, I don’t recommend listening to them. Unless they come from a supporting viewpoint and is giving you sound advice, take it with a grain of salt, and I mean a small teeny tiny grain of salt.
I believe it’s good talking to your friends and loved ones about your dreams, you just need to be careful who you say it to.
And when you talk about it, always stand firm on your choice.
6. Be Yourself
Will this dream allow you to be yourself? Or will you have to change yourself to match your dream?
This should be vice versa. You’re building this dream to satisfy you, not the other way around.
For example, you’re not building a business so that you can let it work you like a horse. You’re building a business so you can the benefits: spending more time with friends and loved ones, travel more, or sleep longer than usual.
Don’t let the dream work you, you work IT.
7. Be Serious
Nothing is more serious than your life, especially how you intend to live your life. If this dream is going to change your life, drastically, then you really need to buckle up and ride. Things in life will happen, ALWAYS, but continue to strive.
As I said, don’t let it the dream work you, but don’t be lazy in building it up either. Make a plan, stick the plan, and see it prosper.
8. Is The Desire A Quick Accomplishment Or Is It A Lifetime Commitment?
Depending on your dream, there will be a time limit. If you wanted to accomplish your dreams in 3 months, and it is realistically possible, you will be more motivated to do so.
On the other hand, if this dream’s completion is longer than 6 months, then you got to plan it out. Your plan does not have to be thorough, but enough to know what you might be doing daily, weekly, or monthly.
Plan, Plan, Plan!
9. Take Classes/Courses
Does this dream require you to take classes? Then do it. Taking classes such as skillshare can also encourage you to continue on to make your dreams move to action. You might learn something from the fellow instructor that may have been where you are right now. If you want to start a website/blog, how about start with Wealthy Affiliate? It’s an Affiliate Marketing School that teaches you to build a website (for free) and also teaches you how to earn money as you build your website, all under $49/month or $250/year! That’s a pretty good deal! There have been a lot of testimonies about the school in how they earned money through their wesbite! Honestly. I highly recommend you checking it out.
You do not have to work at it alone, help is always necessary when you’re stuck.
There you go!
Go ahead girl (or guy) and stop thinking that you can’t reach those dreams of yours. Maybe it might take time, but that’s the beauty of a journey, isn’t it? Don’t let yourself regret something you could’ve at least done. You were meant to do something. And if it is that dream you want to embark on, then go ahead, explore, and make it count.
Until Next Time,