4 Super Helpful Tips To Build Self-Confidence

Need some tips on the ways to building confidence in yourself? Are you searching for tips on how to build self-confidence? Self-confidence is like a muscle that needs to be used every day. The more you use it, the stronger it grows. And confidence is the tool you use every day. But if you’re lacking it self-confidence or need to boost your self-confidence, there are ways to do it. Because if you want to get everything you want out of life, you have to have the confidence to go after those things.

This post will provide you 4 helpful ways to build self-confidence in yourself so you can tackle your task without fear and live life boldly. 

Let’s get started. 

This post is about the tips to build self-confidence

Take Action

When faced with a lack of confidence in some areas, it’s important to take action. Boy, will it be uncomfortable! There may be fear. It might take work. But by taking action, you will gain experience and confidence. Begin with small steps if you need to. 

Let’s say you have a fear of public speaking and want to get better at it. Begin by speaking in front of your mirror at home. Then move on to speaking in front of a room with one or two people in it. Then move on to speaking in front of bigger groups. With each step, you are gaining confidence in your speaking abilities.

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie

Before getting in front of a group, say positive affirmations. Here are a few you can use.

  • I am a warm, engaging person
  • People are friendly
  • I have positive energy flowing out of me
  • I am confident in what I want to say
  • People see the value in what I have to say. They respect me

Here’s another example of how taking action helps build confidence in other areas of your life. You want to start your own business by starting a blog or selling online. You can’t just give up your current income from your job, especially if you don’t have the funds to support yourself 6 months or more. 

Instead, begin taking small steps each day towards your goal of starting a business. You can start by doing your research, then making a call within your state about business licensing registration. The next day you set up a business plan. One day you search out competitors within your niche. Each step takes you closer to your goal. You gain confidence in yourself by taking action toward what you want to do to change your life. 


Stop Comparing Yourself

Comparing yourself with others is not healthy at all. It causes envy which can lower your self-esteem. In 2018, a study was written in the Personality and Individual differences discovered there is a direct connection between envy and how you feel about yourself.

Instead of comparing your own wealth, skills, possessions or looks to others, remind yourself of what you do have. List your qualities and possessions. When you feel the urge to compare yourself, use it as a motivator to make healthy improvements. Just because you may not have what they have, does not mean your possessions or qualities aren’t worth having. 

“Death and destruction are never satisfied, and neither are human eyes.” – Proverbs 27:20 NIV

Stay away from triggers that cause envy. For example, if you constantly compare your success to someone else’s, stay away from those you’ve come to envy and social media as much as possible. Remind yourself how you will get where you want to be and grateful where you’re at the present moment. 

“Personality begins where comparison leaves off. Be unique. Be memorable. Be confident. Be proud.” – Shannon L. Alder

Face a Fear

Do one thing every day that scares you. Facing your fear is the best way to overcome it. And by facing your fear, you gain confidence from the experience. Get out of your comfort zone. Breathe in and out and know you will be okay when facing your fears. What’s one thing you fear? Is it meeting new people? 

Next time you’re at a party or workplace, go have a conversation with one person you don’t know. Bring a friend who can help you overcome this fear, but push yourself to meet and socialize with people. By doing this you’ll gain the confidence in yourself to begin being more social. The more social you become, the more your confidence grows in other areas. 

No matter what, you’ve put yourself out there and you should be proud of it, no matter what the outcome is. 

Build Body Confidence

One way to effectively build confidence in yourself is by building body confidence. How you feel about your body directly affects your self-confidence. Accepting yourself as you are, inside and out, is essential to being self-confident. When you accept and “approve” of yourself, people will observe that about you. 

When you get right down to the bottom line it’s not your body, your looks, or things that attract people to you initially. It’s your overall, self-assured confidence that makes you shine and stand out in a crowd.

Hanging out with people who were self-assured of themselves gave me an increase in my own self-confidence. Some of these were my friends, while others were people who in my life were passing through whose confidence I admired. Most of them didn’t not have the perfect body nor things that were considered successful. Their confidence drew people to them which, to be honest, drew me to them also. 

Your confidence intrigues people. It makes them want to be around you more often. They also want to learn about you and learn from you. This is when your inner beauty, the qualities and characteristics that can’t be seen just by looking at you, such as skills, talents, mindsets, attitudes, compassion, intelligence, loyalty, etc. When this happens, they are more easily recognized and appreciated by others, as well as yourself.

When it comes to improving your body confidence, you might think that you need to start “fixing” the things that you don’t like about your body. You’ll be glad to know that body confidence actually has nothing to do with changing your body. In fact, building body confidence hinges on making needed changes to your ideas, priorities, focus, and actions.

Accentuate your body type and flaunt it like it’s nobody businesses. When you start loving yourself, people will see that and want to gravitate towwards you. Shoot, they might even want to develop confidence because you!

“I’m an imperfect human being who’s not made to look like a doll. Who I am, as a person, is more important than whether I have a nice figure.” – Emma Watson

Your thoughts and your attitude determine your level of confidence. Here are a few things you’ll want to do to make sure your thinking and actions are aligned for success. Otherwise, old ideas may hinder your progress.

  • Out with The Old, In with The New – Learn to identify the faulty, biased, unrealistic messages that industry media wants you to believe to further their own agendas and businesses. Replace theem with healthy, realistic, inspiring, empowering real-life examples and messages that help you succeed. 
  • Look into Your Choice of Role Models – Reassess the people you look up to. Don’t look “at” them. Look into them. What character traits, skills, knowledge, talents, and/or behaviors do you admire or inspire you? If you discover that you are drawn to a person’s material things, or what that person can do for you, you probably need to rethink your criteria for choosing a role model. 
  • Practice Makes Positively Powerful – As you know, learning to appreciate some things about yourself can be very difficult to do, especially if others reinforce a negative thought. Stop and ignore those people that limits your positive thoughts and actions. Find out what thoughts and behaviors you need to focus on and/or develop. The next steps involve practice, practice, and more practice. Think about how your role model accomplishes this. The more you practice the more positive and empowering you will become.
  • Re-Think and Prioritize – When you have body confidence, you don’t worry about “appearance” or put a high value on how the outer package, looks. What matters most is within you; so you place a higher priority on building and enhancing those aspects that will take you farther and will last longer, when it comes to enhancing your life.
  • Respect Yourself – You’ll need to practice what you preach, by showing others what is acceptable to you. You can’t put yourself down or allow negative self-talk. Show respect and appreciation for yourself by practicing habits that matter to you. 
  • Enjoy and Encourage Yourself More – Your role models aren’t your only sources of inspiration and encouragement. When you do things that you enjoy, as well as giving yourself a sense of empowerment, you are actively showing appreciation for yourself. You are putting an emphasis on your self-approval, which in the long-run is what matters most, what you think and how you feel about yourself.

It’s also important to “pamper” yourself with a little extra TLC via a massage, a hot-oil hair treatment, a pedicure, clothes that make you feel good/confident, etc. When you stop ignoring your body and show you appreciate it, you will find it easier to accept your body as it is – imperfections and all.

Body confidence is closely connected to self-esteem. Adults and children, with body confidence, tend to feel free to be themselves, enjoy their interests and activities, as well as voicing their opinions. Also, people with body confidence tend to make better choices and aren’t afraid of trying new things or taking planned risks. 

These are just a few ways you can boost your confidence. Simply by taking action, facing your fears and changing the way you take care of yourself you’re taking steps to be more confident and assured in making changes in your life. 

So tell me, what are you doing to build confidence? Let me know in the comment below!

Until Next Time, 

Simply Alia

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