Ways To Find What You Simply Want In Life

January 17, 2019

Do you absolutely know what you want in life? I believe some of us have a difficult time finding out what we really want in life? Or we get so distorted about what we want based on what we see on social media, people we admire, and the likes. I mean do you really want to travel? Do you really want to be a photographer? Are you really into beanie babies (just guessing)?

The list can go on and on. We get so inspired to follow people that urge us to do this or that, but in the end, is that what we truly want to do, or is this another shiny object that will get broken, dull, or lost?

I urge you, dear readers, to look within yourself and find YOUR want. Only then, you will positively become the person you were always meant to be or even want to be, in your purest form.

So do you want to find out the ways you can uncover what you really want in life? In this post, I will present to you several ways to determine what you really want, and how you can assess it. This way you can go ahead and create the life you want your way, and not from anyone else. You can only be you.

Also, remember this: there will be some trial and error when you test out these things. In the end, you’ll learn some things that will eventually lead you to what you really want in life.

Let’s get started.

  1. Look Into What You Value
  2. Reminisce The Past
  3. Look Into Your Hobby/ Interest/ Passion
  4. Consider Your Feelings & Current Situation
  5. Get Out There!

Look Into What You Value

Values are things that we believe in that is right, worthy and true within our lives. There are certain things we value. Do you love to laugh? That may be something missing in your life. Are you a volunteer? Do you love servitude? Try another organization that lines up with your belief. But first and foremost, you have to figure what you value most in your life. Then, you can go down the list to determine what you truly want to do in life.

For example, my values are servitude, laughter, curiosity, independence, and creativity. Those are the values I live by. If you need any help in understanding what your values are, let me know in the comments below!

Reminisce The Past

Remember the good old days? Well, this notion is true in some form. Were there things that you wished you could do but never got around to do it? Write them down in your journal and see if any of these things resonate with that you really want in life at this time.

If you like painting in the past but never got around it now, try painting again. If you really liked volunteering, or anything that brought interest in your life in the past; seek it, do it, and see if this any of these things are what you want in life.

Look Into Your Hobby/ Interest/ Passion

Maybe you’re a great a knitter or a great artist. Do you feel like you want to do more with your gifts? Do you want to showcase your talent to the world?

Do you like going to the museum? Is there something about it you won’t do? Do you want to blog about it? Do you want to visit all sorts of museums in the course of your lifetime?

These are just simple questions that I hope helps you determine if what you really want in life comes from the things you like doing on a daily basis or when you have the time.

Consider Your Feelings & Current Situation

Feelings are one of the best ways to determine what you truly are missing in life. Are you sad? Are you apathetic? Do you laugh constantly? Do you feel scared about something?

If you have a journal, write any emotions or feelings down that you may be feeling at certain times of the day. For a week or two, if you find yourself feeling a certain way all the time (mostly negatively), that particular emotion may be the culprit finding out the missing piece to what you desire in your life.

When you have figured out that feeling, see if the emotions align with any situation you’re in. It may be your job, your home, or your social media.

When you’ve figured out that out, you’re on your way to figuring out the missing link in your life.

Get Out There!

Are you really missing something in your life? Or you’re just wishing and hoping something happens in your life?

One that thing you could certainly do is get out there! You won’t really figure out what you want in life until you do something. Maybe you’ve been feeling a certain way because you really haven’t done anything productive or fun in your life. Add these activities to your lifestyle.

There you go!
What do you think of this list? Do some of these resonate with you? Leave it in the comments below!

Until Next Time,

Simply Alia


  • Reply
    January 31, 2019 at 2:45 am

    Great thoughts and inspiration, thanks.

    I think I know some of what I really want and some things I have already achieved. Still, there is an everyday process necessary to update or to find out what is what we want on this particular day.

    I also have to listen to my wife and her needs because eventually, I want her to be happy too. I think living in the moment and doing instead of thinking too much helps a lot by experiencing what we want and what we don’t.

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      Simply Alia
      January 31, 2019 at 4:18 am

      Living for the moment is the thing we can only do! Thank you for the comment!

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    Triumphant Life TV
    January 31, 2019 at 2:50 am

    Finding what a person wants in life is a task considered very easy yet of really technical matter. People get so distorted about what they want based on what we see on social media, people we admire, and the likes. The rate at which people go for things they don’t actually need due to the fact someone has it I laughed quite alarming and should be checked. However, what’s the best way to know one’s true heart desire? 

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      Simply Alia
      January 31, 2019 at 4:17 am

      That’s right! Our environment and things we see and hear tells us what we need or want. But they may not be for our best interest! Plus, that is still difficult to know what we want. That’s why we need to search on our own, explore, and be curious! That’s when we can at least know what path we want to take. Thank you for the comment!

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    January 31, 2019 at 2:52 am

    Hi Alia, First up, I love your website design. It is simple and classy 🙂 well done. This list is great! the section that resonates with me is the “Get out there” section. I think what separates people is their ability to act on ideas, I read somewhere that the all greatest Ideas have been thought of but just haven’t been acted on yet. Plenty of opportunity

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      Simply Alia
      January 31, 2019 at 4:13 am

      Thank you for the compliment, sir! Yes, getting out there is a great way to explore your horizon. Sometimes, that’s the best decision we could ever make for ourself. Thank you for the comment!

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    January 31, 2019 at 2:53 am

    Wow!!  This is an absolutely incredible article.  It really makes a person think about their life and everything that drives their lives.I actually think more people are missing things in their lives but really they dont want to admit it.  In this article you are kind of giving us a blue print to feel better about our selves and I think that can be very helpful in life.Thank you for taking the time to write such a great article with such great information.Dale

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      Simply Alia
      January 31, 2019 at 4:10 am

      Thank you. Glad I could help in any way! Thank you for the comment. 

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    January 31, 2019 at 2:53 am

    I am yet to figure out what ireally want to do in life it has not been that easy at all that has left me more less disappointed with is their for me .but after going through the this article I do know have astarting point and I believe I will be able to figure out  what I want that could not have been possible if never came across this article thanks for great Work.

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      Simply Alia
      January 31, 2019 at 4:08 am

      Thank you! Glad it helped you, even if for a bit! Thank you for the comment!

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    January 31, 2019 at 2:56 am

    Hello Alia! This post get right down to were the rubber meats the road. I really like your approach. We usually follow what others impose us. But usually they are just shiny objects.

    I like this list. And I’ll even share on social media with friends. 

    I personally have clicked with looking into what we value, our hobby and our passions. And taking knowledge of our feelings. 

    Thank you very much for this post!

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      Simply Alia
      January 31, 2019 at 4:04 am

      Thank you! I appreciate the love. And I’m glad it helped, even for a bit! Thank you for the comment!

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    January 31, 2019 at 2:57 am

    Hi Simply, you have got an amazing article here.  Your article made me reminiscence on things I could have done in the past but never got the chance to do them. Sometimes the spirit is willing to explore but the flesh is weak lol. This often leads to procrastination and from there, the zeal dwindles out. I love your tips on how to find what we want in life. Especially on having interest/passion for it as this will keep one going when the challenge becomes tough. Above all, action is truly needed as you said, when we get up and ‘get out there’, we will certainly with other tips, figure out what we truly want in life.

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      Simply Alia
      January 31, 2019 at 4:03 am

      Thank you. And you’re right, the spirit is willing, but thy flesh is weak! I truly find myself procrastinating, but not as much as I used to! All I had to do was take little steps. Thank you for the comment!

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    January 31, 2019 at 3:02 am

    This piece is very inspiring. Since when I was a child, I knew that I was passionate about music and music is something I had since loved to get into. But unfortunately, I have not seen myself actualizing that potential that I see in myself. Your piece has come at the right time and I think that now is the high time I pick myself up and achieve it! 

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      Simply Alia
      January 31, 2019 at 4:01 am

      Thank you. I am glad it inspired you! When you are passionate about something you got to pursue it. Even if it takes little steps! Thank you for the comment!

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    January 31, 2019 at 3:15 am

    Hello Alia,This is a great list to know truly what you really want in life.  Problem with me sometimes I like to do multiple hobbies for instance: tropical fish tank setups, blogging, hot yoga, and electronics projects.  I totally agree with you that you have to find what you are truly passionate and showcase it.  I think I have to go to self-realization and re-evaluate and truly find out what I really love doing and go from there.Thank you for a great helpful insight.

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      Simply Alia
      January 31, 2019 at 3:58 am

      Nothing is wrong tackling multiple hobbies to find out what you truly want. Maybe you love tackling all of them! as long as you’re enjoying them, that’s enough. Thank you for the comment!

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    Danny Barley
    January 31, 2019 at 3:22 am

    I enjoyed reading the article, “Ways To Find What You Simply Want In Life.”  It is well written and discusses the topic very well.  It has a lot of interesting points on ways to find yourself and what you want in life and out of life.  The article sets out to explain 5 great ideas on how to figure his/her way in life and I feel what makes them happy.  If a person doesn’t know what he/she wants in life, Alia shows he/she how to make a list and find out for themselves what he/she values and how to go about finding what is important to a person in their search for what they want in life.  

    As for me, I am 59 and I still feel for some reason that I haven’t found out what I truly want in life.  I was raised in a very negative home and all I heard was you can’t be successful, you can’t do this or that, and I hate negativity.  I left and went to college graduating with 6 degrees paying for them myself because I thought it would make me happy and that’s what I wanted in life, but at the end of the day, it didn’t make me happy.  I found out that I went to college for the wrong reasons and that want I earned degrees in, didn’t make me happy cause I wanted to be a surgeon.

    I married for the wrong reasons and had a boy.  This is the one thing that I know made me happy and I am a great father. I joined the Army and this is one thing I’m very proud of.  I know that I love to travel and the military and my former career allowed me to do that.  I am a totally disabled veteran and I hate I am disabled but I am proud of my military service.  I finally am happy with my fiance because we have known each other for 53 years and will marry in late Spring of this year.  This is what I truly want in life besides being a father to my son who has Autism and lives with me.  I want to travel again as well.  But I believe what I want most in life is to own my own business and WA will allow me to do this and provide my family and me with a way to travel the world.  This is one way that will allow me to be happy and show me what I want in life.

    But I really enjoyed reading the article and it allows me to learn something new as to find my passions in life and help me as a person to find my true “calling” in life and make me happy.  I absolutely believe that if a person uses Alia’s steps that she lists in this article that a person can finally be happy and find his/her want in life.

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      Simply Alia
      January 31, 2019 at 3:57 am

      Man, thank you for telling your story! So beautiful! I’m just glad you found your happiness in your son and later on! Sometimes life throws curve balls, but you stood strong and you’re still enjoying this journey!! Thank you for the comment! 

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    January 31, 2019 at 3:25 am

    I think this is a great list!  Good to start with what you value and I think it’s important to ask yourself “why”?  When we keep asking ourselves “why?” It starts peeling back the layers and gets down to the core of what we really want, what we really value.  It’s a bit cliche, but when you focus more on the journey, rather than the destination, the trials in the process are a little more bearable because there is purpose to them

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      Simply Alia
      January 31, 2019 at 3:48 am

      I truly agree about focusing on the journey rather than the destination. It has more focus and noticeable blessings than focusing on the destination. Thank you for the comment!

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