From Alia

What Success Means To Me

September 25, 2018

“Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible, and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” ~ Francis of Assisi

What is the real definition of success?

Is it about having a nice car? Or having a passing grade at school? What is the definition of a successful life?

That particular answer depends on you. It also depends on me.

We all have different ways to define what success means in our life. In this post, I will describe to you what success means to me based on 5 qualities.

  • Knowing My Purpose In Life
  • FAITHing It Out
  • Perseverance With A Cloudy Chance Of Success
  • Having Self-Respect
  • Knowing My Self-Worth

Knowing My Purpose In Life

Everyone has a different purpose in life. But sometimes, we let others success become ours. If we see someone achieve a certain goal that seems interesting or cool, we want that goal to become our goal too.

But is that YOUR definition of success? Or someone else’s?

I had a hard time finding out my purpose in life, especially in what I wanted to be, career-wise. I took someone else’s goal and made it my own, all throughout high school and college. I forcibly made this particular career my own until I figured out that it wasn’t for me.

That was when I had to redefine my purpose, my identity in this world. To be honest, I still haven’t found it.

But one thing I know is that my definition of a successful life is to help people however I can. And you can too.

That’s my purposeful definition of success.

FAITHing It Out

Overall, we all want to be successful. We want to be happy and fulfilled. How do we go about achieving these things? There must be some kind of thing or force that continuously gravitate our mindset toward that particular success no matter the hardship.

That my friend is what I call Faith.

As a Christian, in particular, my life is dependent on God’s guidance by the Holy Spirit to help me achieve that success. He knows my beginning and end, so why not let Him guide me and show me the way?

Proverbs 3:5-6 states this: Trust the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and he shall direct your path.” That’s my biblical definition of success.

Not many of you will agree with this and that’s okay.

Even if you don’t believe in God, you definitely must believe IN something that is repetitively gravitating you to reach that goal you want to achieve.

As we all continue to achieve our goals with Faith, or something, that my friend is already the beginning of success.

Persevere With A Cloudy Chance of Success

This particular term goes right along with Faith, in my opinion.

When I have a particular goal in mind, which is my purpose, and have the Faith to pull through, that in all is what perseverance does.

It helps you push through the obstacles.

When I finally changed my major in college, I became liberated. The purpose that I thought was mine all those years ago only burdened me. So when I finally chose the major that suited me, I was glad. I felt peace.

So I pushed through college until I finally graduated. That to me was me persevering through, which, in turn, got me my Bachelor degree.

Mind you, years later, as I said, I still don’t know what career I should be in! But as long as it is MY choice and it makes me feel at peace and liberated, I’m not bothered. I’m good.

That’s one of the things still I’m learning in my 20s. My journey is not your journey.

Now does it seem wasteful that I don’t know what career I need be in? Especially if I am in my late 20s? Maybe. But that’s your definition. That’s your opinion.

But for me, my journey may have just begun.

Having Self-Respect

Are you worthy? Do you think you’re worthy? Hopefully, you can answer that question by yourself.

Are you achieving success in your own terms, or is it in the terms of someone else? Again, you can answer that question by yourself.

Whatever goal you’re in the process, make sure that it is in your ball court.

Or is it court ball?

What I am saying is that success is based on how much you also value yourself. Do you tell yourself you’re strong and able? Are you capable of doing things that you’ve always been able to do or you’re letting someone else make the decision for you?

Like my story, I didn’t trust my abilities to choose my own path. I LET someone else’s path become mine, without fully thinking about it in how it would make me happy. I only thought how much it would make my parents happy and the future they expected me to have.

Now I know that’s not all true. Sure I can have the expected future I want, but I don’t want it to be in someone’s hand to choose that for me.

So overall, my definition of personal success is respecting myself enough to achieve the life I WANT to achieve. That’s already a success in the work.

Knowing My Self-Worth

You already have the qualities of success! If you grasp this then you’re already that much successful. I wrote a post on 7 qualities that you already have that make you successful.

When you know you’re successful, your value and your self-respect increases. You then believe in yourself and know you’re worth.

Changing my major in college was a big change for me because that means that my life would change. I would not under anyone’s expectation but my own. But I knew it was the path I decided to take. I know it was God’s doing in this.

You don’t live under anyone’s expectation but your own, respectively.

That’s my definition of personal success; being able to live and decide what I want to do in life. People can ADVISE me on what I need to do in my life, but it is STILL my decision. PERIOD.

Conclusion

There you go!

I’ve given you my personal definition of success based on 5 qualities. Not knowing your purpose, especially if it is not your own, is going to get you nowhere in life.

So what is the best definition of success? To me anyways?

Define YOUR purpose, have the faith and the perseverance to overcome it, and have self-respect and self-worth to know you’re able to amount to anything you set your mind to.

What is your personal definition of success? Leave it in the comments below! Let’s communicate!

Until Next Time,

Simply Alia

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2 Comments

  • Reply
    Sarah
    September 26, 2018 at 7:00 pm

    Lovely post. I’m looking forward to checking out more of your blog.

    • Reply
      Simply Alia
      September 26, 2018 at 7:30 pm

      No, thank you for reading my post. I really appreciate it!

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